The Mother I Grieve - The Daughters I Call
While in Milwaukee attending a gathering of Affiliates of our community – women who are discerning the possibility of entering our community - we spent time visiting some of the places which are significant to our heritage as School Sisters of Notre Dame in North America. One of our presenters during the weekend spoke of the bell at our Motherhouse in
Milwaukee which was dedicated shortly after Mother Caroline’s death with the inscription “the Mother I mourn, the daughters I call.” (Mother Caroline came to the
For me there was significance in this bell which both mourned the old and invited the new. Its symbolism was essential in the time of Mother Caroline and I believe it continues to be significant for us today.
Like those that grieved the loss of Mother Caroline, we too are experiencing a communal time of loss as we’ve been touched deeply by the deaths of several of our sisters already this year. These women have been our mentors, teachers, companions, and friends and the deaths of these “mothers” are mourned by us who feel the loss of their presence.
At the same time, the bell’s inscription speaks of “the daughter’s I call.” For as much as those pioneering members mourned the death of Mother Caroline there was also a spirit within them which was turned toward the future, welcoming and inviting new members.
As I consider the future I often find myself pondering the question, “What are we inviting women to at this time?” I continue to believe that we are inviting them to an experience of religious life that will in many ways be unlike what it has been in the past, in part because our world and its needs continue to change at a pace unparalleled to any time in our history. Our General Chapter Meeting in Brazil last fall, in response to this reality, has called us to recognize new ways of acting interdependently, holding all in common for the sake of the mission. This call will certainly invite us to change. Additionally I believe the women who are attracted to our community will bring with them life experiences and hopes for our world that will stretch us to new ways of expressing and living our charism. The opportunity to listen to the experiences, hopes and dreams of the three women who participated in the Affiliate weekend certainly verified this belief for me and gave me great hope for our future.
As I experience this time in the life of our community, I continue to hold the inscription on the bell in Milwaukee before me – “The Mother I mourn, the daughters I call”. We certainly do need to honor and mourn those “mothers” who have gone faithfully before us who have been instrumental in shaping what we’ve known of religious life in our time. At the same time we must continue to call those “daughters” who will bring our community’s spirit into the future as they strive to respond to the call to be SSNDs in mission. I believe that if we SSNDs of today ground our lives firmly in our constitution, You Are Sent, and respond openly to our Call to Solidarity “ready to risk all we are and all we have for the sake of the Mission of Jesus Christ” we will attract and sustain new members.